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From a member of the COH support group<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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Initially I was concerned about some of the guilt that various people in the group were experiencing. It seemed like it wasn’t really guilt that they had done anything to deserve, so this post was the result:<\/p>\n

Guilt is not necessarily a bad thing.<\/p>\n

Guilt can be like pain.<\/p>\n

Pain is nature’s way of telling people that whatever they just did is not something that they should repeat. Healthy guilt is a good thing, especially if I am listening to my inner voice. The majority of people have a problem with not feeling guilty often enough, especially in this day and age of “You don’t have any right to judge me.”<\/p>\n

COH on the other hand have a tendency to have the opposite problem. Because our hoarders frequently blame us for their problems (see above paragraph), we often accept that blame because…. Well, let’s face it, we didn’t have the tools emotionally to reply back that the problem wasn’t that we weren’t doing enough around the house. We were dependent on our parents for survival and we didn’t really have any other option other than accepting the guilt.<\/p>\n

Well, I am writing today on behalf of the COH Unhealthy Guilt Erradication team. I have very good news for everyone here at COH. Today and tomorrow are officially “No Unhealthy Guilt for All COH members” weekend. Now since many of us struggle with knowing whether a specific guilty feeling is healthy or not, I will provide a list of healthy versus unhealthy guilt.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

HEALTHY GUILT <\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n