{"id":1890,"date":"2011-03-31T07:39:39","date_gmt":"2011-03-31T11:39:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/childrenofhoarders.com\/wordpress\/?page_id=1890"},"modified":"2012-04-16T12:29:05","modified_gmt":"2012-04-16T16:29:05","slug":"motivation","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/legacy.childrenofhoarders.com\/?page_id=1890","title":{"rendered":"Motivation"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quote about Motivation and Discrepency
\nDr. Randy Frost speaking during Face Your Hoarding
\nTendencies teleclass, March 8, 2007<\/strong>
\nhttp:\/\/messies.com\/products\/audio_video\/the_organizer_lady_friends_present_1\/<\/a>
\nMinutes 24:35 & 26:16 of recorded discussion:<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

“Regarding motivation, there are a couple of things that I think it\u2019s important for people to think about. And that is in order for change to happen in anyone\u2019s life, two things have to happen.<\/p>\n

One is the change has to be important. Now what I mean by important is that there has to be a discrepancy or a difference between the way the person is living now and the way they want to live. There\u2019s got to be some discrepancy there.<\/p>\n

So the person\u2019s unhappy with the way they are now. The idea is that if you haven\u2019t reached your goal, but if you\u2019re reasonably comfortable and there\u2019s not much difference, then change is unlikely. There\u2019s got to be a big enough discrepancy between
\nwhere you\u2019re at now and where you want to be in order for that
\nchange to be important.<\/strong><\/p>\n

But beyond that, the second thing we have to have is some confidence that change is possible.<\/strong> If there\u2019s a discrepancy between the way I live now and the way I want to live but I don\u2019t have any confidence that I can actually make a change, then what\u2019s going to happen is I\u2019m going to engage in some funny ways of thinking in order to reduce that discrepancy. <\/strong>I\u2019m going to start telling myself, ;<\/p>\n

\u201cWell it\u2019s not so bad the way it is now.\u201d<\/p>\n

Or, I\u2019m going to tell myself \u201cthat maybe I like it this way.\u201d<\/p>\n

Or I\u2019m going to tell myself \u201cit\u2019s not my problem, it\u2019s someone else\u2019s problem.<\/p>\n

Because I have this discrepancy and I have to reduce it in order to feel comfortable. And I can\u2019t reduce it by changing because I\u2019m not confident that I can do it. So I use some mental trickery and that leads me to appear as though I don\u2019t recognize that I have a problem.\u201d<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Quote about Motivation and Discrepency Dr. Randy Frost speaking during Face Your Hoarding Tendencies teleclass, March 8, 2007 http:\/\/messies.com\/products\/audio_video\/the_organizer_lady_friends_present_1\/ Minutes 24:35 & 26:16 of recorded discussion: “Regarding motivation, there are a couple of things that I think it\u2019s important for people to think about. And that is in order for change to happen in anyone\u2019s … <\/p>\n

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